Happy New Year & sorry it’s been so long since I’ve written! 2016 ended in a whirlwind and 2017 seems to be starting in the same fashion! So let’s get this started!
“What I didn’t do!” If you are like me this statement plagues you throughout the day and may keep you from falling asleep at night, and frankly I’m sick of it! With the new year it’s no surprise we find ourselves making resolutions, many the same; better health, new career goals, kinder treatment of others, etc. These all fall on my own list, but I’m adding a new one for me this year, and it’s title is “I did it”!
This may sound odd, but let me try to explain. My goal is to reframe my own thought process, and instead of focusing on what I am not accomplishing in a day, week, or month I will celebrate and acknowledge what I did accomplish! I’m not sure when or where it happens that we teach ourselves to focus on the negative, to burden ourselves with guilt, anxiousness, and frustration over what we aren’t able to achieve. It’s sad because we are missing out on celebrating our small victories that each and every one of us have in a day. It’s too easy to kick ourselves and personally I find myself doing this all too often.
For example, at around 4:30 today I was feeling so overwhelmed because I hadn’t cleaned the dishes from earlier in the day, I hadn’t responded to three pending emails, I hadn’t printed out some paperwork needed for this week, I hadn’t put away the holiday decorations…and yet when I stopped myself in this terrible down spin of guilt over all my HADNT’s, the following came to light:
I had gotten three kids out of bed, dressed for the day, and fed before 7:30am.
I had told each of them good morning and that I loved them.
I had rescheduled a dentist appointment.
I had gone to the gym (first time in months) and worked out for 30 minutes.
I had changed diapers, fed lunch to two “starving “boys, managed to eat lunch myself, answer emails, etc. the list goes on. – I even watched The Hunger Games Mocking Jay 2 (mama time), which doesn’t seem like an accomplishment BUT let me tell you, this happens far less than you realize. Two plus hours of uninterrupted screen time and a mental vacation from it all was much needed, and now as I see it a huge accomplishment!
Of course after my movie, the guilt slowly crept back in, and all my HADNT’s began to create a choke hold effect once again. So enough is enough! It’s 2017 and if you are like me it’s a great new year to start appreciating ourselves more and combating our own over the top expectations we put on ourselves. This is more than just stopping and smelling the roses, this is buying yourself roses because you deserve it for all the little victories you have in a day. These “little” accomplishments up until now have been overlooked and undervalued. It’s time for all that we DO in a day, week, month, and beyond outshine the things we don’t get to. Kick your HADNT’S to the curb and shout to the rooftops “I DID IT!” – even if that means you just rolled out of bed for the day, trust me I think that is a huge feat deserving of celebration!
I’m using 2017 to celebrate me more and appreciate all that I do. I'm ending each day with an "I Did It!" cheer... (might be a little weird, but I don't really care). I’m freeing myself of guilt beholden to unrealistic expectations. It’s not easy to change how one thinks, but putting forth this effort can be life changing; and in my case I’m just hoping I feel less stressed about a pile of laundry (or two) waiting another day to be put away.
Here’s to 2017 and to you! Cheers to all that you do - now celebrate it!